Shaima Alawadi, an Iraqi-American woman, was beaten to death with a blunt implement in her El Cajon home over a month ago in an attack so brutal that it would seem an impassioned amateur was responsible. Soon to divorce her husband, who was dropping off younger children, and with her teenage daughter allegedly in the house at the time of the beating, Alawadi did not fit the profile of a vulnerable target for a crazed anti-Arab racist with murder on their mind–yet that is the narrative the media went with immediately after the event and still, even now, a million symbolic hijabs march in solidarity with her on Facebook. On this page, in response to a linked video, an outraged white female commenter exclaimed:
Why is this page posting this tripe? (the video) Just as you deleted your” like” to Ayan Hirsi, this “activist” goes beyond what you say you are endorsing. Are you in solidarity with a woman who you jumped to judgment was murdered “for her hijab” while CAIR and MPAC were urging patience in an ongoing case, or are you wanting to save Muslim women from Islam as you were asked yesterday and deleted?...You are either against Islamophobia or you want to post videos of problems in Islam. You can’t have it both ways.
Alawadi’s teenage daughter, Alhimidi, was 17 and at the age when it is made clear to Muslim Arab women from conservative families that they are as pork to the Chinese. So when she was observed having midday car-sex with her Chaldean boyfriend, (and then chronicled for a local anthology) by a local man, and after the police and Shaima were called, Alhimidi jumped out of her mother’s car while it moved at a reported speed of 35 mph. She explained to hospital staff that her parents expected her to marry a cousin in Iraq. Teenagers all over this country have car sex–often parents are unwilling to acknowledge the realities of human sexuality under their own roof–and this Iraqi-American couple was no different in that regard. Their problem was that Alhimidi was considered property by both of her parents, yes even the one challenging that notion by initiating a divorce, and having a boyfriend, Chaldean Iraqi Christian or not, was a cardinal offense. The Muslim Arab gender milieu, as described by Razib in a previous post, does not allow for a manageable learning curve for the skills and knowledge critical for successful interpersonal relationships and sexual health. I do not know whether or not Alhimidi and her boyfriend conspired to kill Shaima nor would I be terribly surprised if that were the case or if the soon-to-be ex-husband was involved. I do hope that in the near future the American public will become more comfortable, much like the woman above, in discusing the dynamics of current migrant societies as modern historians have with Anglophone and European settlers.