It seems incidents like this will keep China well in the “barbarism” (using A BP patented term) for some time coming.
Jian Feng became suspicious when he saw his baby for the first time – and discovered his wife’s good looks were due to plastic surgery
IT’S the ugliest divorce case in legal history.
When husband Jian Feng saw his newborn baby for the first time he was horrified.
The girl was so ugly he refused to believe he and his stunning wife could have produced such a child.
And he rounded on his partner, accusing her of having an affair.
But she told him the terrible truth.Her good looks were due to £62,000 of plastic surgery and the baby was indeed theirs.
Furious Feng took her to court claiming she had tricked him into marriage – and WON his lawsuit.
Feng said: “I married my wife out of love, but as soon as we had our first daughter, we began having marital issues.
“Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me.” He told lawyers his wife had fooled him by having plastic surgery to make her beautiful and it was only the birth of their daughter that gave her away.
Incredibly, the court agreed and awarded Feng £75,000 after his wife admitted she had not told him about the surgery.
A judge in the northern Chinese court said she had tricked Feng into marrying her – and also granted a divorce. He ruled that since Feng had not been aware of the surgery, his wife had used “false premises”.
I just heard a very sad story about a South Indian man making his only child a nun because she wasn’t educated and too dark (“black” was the term used) to get married. I found this very moving profile about how light-skinned Desis are so hypocritical in pretending not to realize their color privilege and prejudiced faced by a dark-skinned South Indian girl in her community.
Being a dark skinned South Indian girl http://themindislimitless.tumblr.com/post/31596095990/being-a-dark-skinned-south-indian-girl
Reblogged from thatsocialjusticebitch
bantamblarg:
has always made me very conscious of skin color and shadeism in the Desi community and culture from a very young age. I can remember aunties describing me as “cute but a little dark” since the age of four. But I never really thought much of it as I grew older because we moved to an area with very few Desi people (and white people didn’t really give a shit about what SHADE of brown I was). My perception of skin completely changed when I went to study in India a couple of years ago. That was the first time I began to understand how completely obsessed with whiteness desi culture was.
I heard my beautiful sisters sob behind closed doors after being rejected from marriage proposals because their skin was too dark. I saw classmates with dark skin being harassed and called n****r… and just grin and bear it? I watched my friends go through tube after tube of Fair and Lovely that their mothers would lovingly send them in care packages, nestled harmlessly among bars of chocolate.
It is a terrible and sick feeling to realize that your worth is determined by the color of your skin. And it took me a LONG time to be able to love my darkness and accept it as a part of my being. And when light skinned Desi folks whine about how THEY feel alienated and discriminated in the Desi community because they’re “too light to be brown”, that makes me want to laugh at them and their idea of what alienation and discrimination is. You cannot be discriminated in a culture that reveres fair skin. You cannot be alienated in a society that equates beauty with whiteness. You cannot come from a place of privilege and tell me that I have it all wrong. That the years of self loathing do not mean anything.
Accept your privilege. Because you have no idea what it feels like to be judged and defined by your skin
a post on fair skin in BP(again).
[don't ban me I think I might have some insight 
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seriously though, this doesn’t get enough attention. And I believe its getting worse.
Now time for life history of D(octor-almost)
I am 23 and didn’t indulge in pop culture at all when I grew up.I was on coaching for med school from 14 so no TV,movies and I don’t really remember that much of ANYTHING before that. This went on till I was about 20(first couple of years of med school). so I grew up around normal malayali girls. I believe I may have been “conditioned” on this type:D. So yeah every other time i am forced to sit thru 10 minutes of ANYTHING on TV, I am pissed off because none of the girls look like ANYTHING I like. But I consider myself a deviant[i am not typical at all for example i hate Mohanlal as he is now] and that is why I am open to theory of contrast of facial features etc.. To put it short I am in Paradise right now
to continue on things getting worse…
sometimes the same actress(Shobhana a dark skinned Brahmin actress) went from modal Indian to ghostly white in the span of a decade! And I seemed to be the only one to to notice! It was all ridiculous !
Since i started watching movies only when I was 20, i think i was able to notice things that were oblivious to others. For eg: i noticed that skin tones were normal mallu in mallu movies in the late 80s and early 90s after which the whiteness knob has been cranked up and now is reaching ridiculous levels. I think this is like boiling frogs or something
also, all female actors in kerala and TN are very fair(increasingly imported from north) while in bollywood, they are increasingly imported from West(uk for instance) OR half browns(like Katrina). Right now i am staring at an ad campaign of a jeweller in t’puram, all models are South American(take a guess at their features). Its getting much much worse.
another thing i have noted, even in movies only fair girls get harassed! Also ridiculously if a girl is fair it behooves her to stay indoors i believe for two reasons :
1)like vampires fair girls can’t go out in the sun, they turn to ash(not glow like in twilight)
2)they are believed to be a more conspicuous target for harassment
All good points D – personally I don’t think we can use the term “Brown” without exploring the underlying racial implications. It is far better for the identity to spliter into black, white etc so that we can critically examine it rather than put up a false unity (which is the most dangerous thing). http://dawn.com/2012/11/03/the-great-white-pressure/
Congratulations on almost getting there Dr. D
continuing..
All this applies ONLY TO GIRLS. So yeah zach, nobody is called a nigger(this is one of the most unbelievable things i’ve ever heard about India aka its made up shit). Nobody cares about skin tone of dudes. Actors are all mallu looking or tamil looking. Dark girls aren’t harassed at all for their skin. On the contrary they are treated kind of like dudes. Yes, they are low value in marriage market and end up with poor spouses but being a deviant i don’t consider this a problem because i don’t give a shit about hypergamy for dark girls SINCE I AM NOT ONE. Basically if u are a guy and is stupid enough to go after fair skin you probably deserve what is coming your way.
ps : i fully realise i may get creamed for this. better to say excatly what you are thinking instead of some false pretense of high moral ground. This is a blog. Why waste everyone’s time when you aren’t even being honest to yourelf?
Also, thanks zach.
on reading again want to specify the (non)harassment i was referring to was by classmates as mentioned in the post not by parents of dark girls. I believe desi parents are evil in general(emotional blackmail, excessive meddling in love life etc.) so got spaced out on this aspect.
.but …but…but Zach, what about Shilpa Papadoom and those oh soo racist Brits
Thought I was logged in when I made above comment but apparently not so have to make new follow up post.
Anyways, that 1st comment was a sarcastic reference to the brouhaha that erupted with that Big Brother Shilpa comment. India media I read were huffing and puffing, and I was thining the whole time what a bizarro world we live in when far worse in India is essentially ignored but god forbid a Westerner makes an ethnic joke.
Oh and I thought the papadoom comment was funny and didn’t really see the harm in it.
For ethnic comedy, Mind Your Language , the Brit comedy from the 70s and 80s is a must see.
+1
Desis are remarkable thin-skinned towards others but thick-skinned towards their own.
I’d include Arabs too, as a people who are either completely oblivious or downright dismissive about their own racism and prejudice but acutely aware of itsy bitsy perceived slights.
Asian Footbal Confedration mistakenly calls the UAE football team “Sand Monkeys. UAE express outrage at the racism!
http://uk.eurosport.yahoo.com/blogs/world-of-sport/afc-sorry-calling-uae-football-team-sand-monkeys-163209537.html
Ofcourse it is an epithet but it looks like an honest mistake on the part of the AFC. What I found soo hilariously ironic is for the Emiratis to perceive being on the receiving end of alleged racism.
+1
What a colossal asshole this Chinese man is — and the judge who awarded him damages — what the fuck?! He wasn’t happy with the looks of his newborn infant?!
BTW I think a picture of this man should have been included too — how are we to know that the baby didn’t inherit her ugliness from her dad?
Just disgusting.
Much respect for China. Their pragmatism inspires me.