Comments on: Browncast Ep 42: American Arranged Marriage https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/ A discussion of all things Brown.. Wed, 15 Apr 2026 07:45:35 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 By: Saurav https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37296 Mon, 27 May 2019 07:02:10 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37296 In reply to Prats.

Yeah, i have heard about other Indian products doing well in Pakistan, never thought Shaadi.com would be up there

]]> By: Prats https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37295 Mon, 27 May 2019 06:29:29 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37295 In reply to Ali Choudhury.

Interesting. Shaadi.com might then be the only Indian startup with a significant presence in Pakistan. Lol.

]]> By: उद्ररुहैन्वीय https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37281 Sun, 26 May 2019 23:38:26 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37281 It is so hard for me to think if I would have had an arranged marriage. Probably not, but can’t really say.

I met my wife (well she obv wasn’t my wife then) as a matter of total coincidence on the Magdalene Bridge over a decade ago. She just happened to be a friend of my third cousin (share the same paternal great great grand father) studying at Cambridge whom I didn’t know beforehand but had made acquaintance of due to the shared Kashmiri surname.

So in effect I got married due to my great great grand dad but without him arranging for anything 🙂

]]> By: Numinous https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37273 Sun, 26 May 2019 22:09:40 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37273 My 2 cents (not heard the podcast yet):

Arranged marriages can succeed when parents and children (i.e., prospective bride, groom) are on the same wavelength and have roughly the same preferences. Parents need to understand their kids very well to arrange matches that don’t provoke discomfort and disappointment.

They also have a better chance of working in cultures where individually-guided dating is the norm, has been tried and failed. Where arranged marriages are institutionalized, like in India, lots of people end up marrying out of familial pressure and a sense of obligation. Since divorce is frowned upon, a lot of them get locked into lifelong loveless marriages.

]]> By: Ali Choudhury https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37270 Sun, 26 May 2019 20:08:02 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37270 In reply to Saurav.

It is commonly used by Pakistanis both in the home country and abroad. There is a UK site singlemuslim.com that is also popular although the functionality of that isn’t as good.

]]> By: Saurav https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37262 Sun, 26 May 2019 17:36:39 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37262 In reply to Ali Choudhury.

” met my wife via shaadi.com which allowed me to find someone really in line with my preferences. ”

Is shadi.com big in even non Indian (pakistani/Bangladeshi) origin folks as well? I am presuming that you are non Indian origin though. Apologies if you aren’t

]]> By: Arjun https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37259 Sun, 26 May 2019 16:57:53 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37259 In reply to Ali Choudhury.

Are there many (any ?) examples of shaadi.com resulting in cross-cultural alliances (I mean across lines of language, religion etc.) ?

A podcast/poll on shaadi.com couples would be great.

]]> By: X.T.M https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37251 Sun, 26 May 2019 15:39:27 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37251 In reply to Ali Choudhury.

Mashallah!

]]> By: Ali Choudhury https://www.brownpundits.com/2019/05/26/browncast-ep-42-arranged-marriage/#comment-37248 Sun, 26 May 2019 15:35:19 +0000 https://www.brownpundits.com/?p=10042#comment-37248 The arranged marriage visits my parents and relatives took me on were all an uncomfortable, awkward waste of time. It can be a real source of marital misery with incompatible couples forced together out of familial pressure to get hitched. I met my wife via shaadi.com which allowed me to find someone really in line with my preferences. Been together for 4.5 years now, we have yet to have our first argument and prefer hanging out with each other more than anything else.

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