I would be careful of trying to ride this tiger however, lest Desis/Muslims end up like East-Asian men. Completely forced out of the sexual market-place by white-men basically, as what may have once been an earnest attempt at disenfranchising misogynistic Asian-male attitudes, has turned into a shameless fetish for white-men for no other reason than they are white.
There is much that unites the Trans-Atlantic cultures. Not to generalise but East Asians (there maybe some exceptions like the Hmong and Filipinos etc) seem to be assimilating and intermarrying the same way.
Oxbridge is interesting because the Asian minority population is actually Chinese as opposed to Indian. It’s perhaps a commentary on how far along East Asians have come along.
However I would welcome the above trend where Pakistanis, Muslim & Baha’i women start “fetishising” white men instead of their own. The big barrier for these cultures happen to be religion and no matter how benign a religion maybe, it’s all couched in the patriarchy.
What I am beginning to notice among East Asian men that, in light of the relentless sexual competition that they do face for their women, is that there is a progressive dying off the nerd culture. In light of the intense sexual competition they have to step up their game.
Among Desi men where there is so much less competition (since the parents are exerting a subtle pressure on daughters to marry in the community); they remain pretty oblivious to aesthetics.
Nothing is constant and everything is conditional; if Desi men internalised this fact and were genuinely worried that their wives could leave them or that they couldn’t find wives, then they would step up their game.
It so happens that Western aesthetics are the most advanced; coloured people in the West look much more attractive than coloured people in the East & South (unless we make a comparison of the elites; Bollywood and its ilk would skew the comparison).
Indian men in Diaspora are beginning to feel this pressure as Indian women are rapidly marrying out and it’s a very good thing. They have to step up their game.
An excellent parallel is the drama-film industry. It was usually thought that India makes better films and Pakistan better dramas for various reasons. However Netflix is beginning to subvert this paradigm because with the amount of money that it’s pouring into India, it’s making the gritty, angry and realistic dramas (Sacred Games, Ghoul, Delhi Crime) that Pakistan just can’t make.
The Netflix shows are very watchable whereas with Pakistani shows, once you’ve seen one of them you’ve seen it all.